Where do I stand?

[SteveLW]

JR, that is why we are here! I like what you said here: "If/when the truth comes out, I think I’ll be in a better place to handle it having already ridden a part of this rollercoaster."

I too react emotionally. And I too was able to become more level as my sitch went on. I've told others in their threads about the difference in finding out about her EA and reacting emotionally, vs. finding her online dating profile I few weeks later and acting level and calm. Her reactions were night and day as well. remaining calm always works better. It keeps the WAS's defensiveness low, and keeps the discussion on a more positive, productive level.