Shame and devastation 2

[Jdevast]

Thank you. Yes placated again. And it backfired , I just wanted the hate to stop and try rebuild some trust or safety.
Didn't work out so well.

I thought I had been listening and need to do a better job of validating without making excuses or minimising.

I'm going to forward her a suggested parenting plan over the weekend.

It's a lifelong trait I have of making excuses rather than holding my hands up.
Trying to work on this.

I'm borrowing some money so I can see an IC , I think the work I need to do on myself is the most important.

Cwarrior when you say the marriage is gone, do you mean irreconcilable?