Not much to update really. I really hate living in limbo land. W wants a D, but won't move it forward (at least not quickly anyway). I have been spinning a bit the last few days. I am not certain what I want or what to do. Head says to push the D and move on, but the heart (usually) says be the lighthouse and she will eventually emerge from the tunnel. Our interactions are cordial, no yelling etc., but she is drifting further away as I DB. I am also detaching, which would be even easier without kids.