So today started with a ream of messages from her regarding work
I replied to all and asked how daughter was, said I didn't want to fight and suggested 2 named people who could hold emergency keys.
Her: I don't want to discuss kids, house, or us until I have received legal advice.
Me: I understand
Then throughout the day 30 odd messages back and forth regarding our business.
Several blaming me for small errors.
Her: you made a mistake, it's not the mistake it's your refusal to accept responsibility for it.
Me: it was totally on me, and accept it was my mistake.
Then more and more messages throughout the day, basically very directorial again and looking for any errors on my part.
Haven't bitten or tried to defend myself
Just exhausted and worried now that she is talking legal advice this is going to get messy and she is going to double down on the narrative that I'm an abuser,
I want to regain her trust, feel that I should return the key as a peace offering as I want to be able to co-parent and move forward amicably with some trust.
When abuse is involved I think she can only picture me as some sort of monster, she feels unsafe and is exaggerating the threats of things I may do, like enter the house.
