Roist - 5 years; you have stood long and strong! What a testament that is to your character.

I hear lots of detachment in the tone of this message. And you did a fantastic job of building a life outside your marriage to maintain a measure of happiness outside your home life.

I cannot recall if your wife ever went through that period of stating she wanted to leave or D? Or has she always just been sort of stuck?

Kudos to you on all the personal growth you have accomplished while still standing.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced