The negotiations continue. The jabs continue. The changing emotions continue.
Yesterday D20 called and said “dad sent another e-mail”. She wasn’t crying this time, but sounded very down. This was the 2nd e-mail he sent her since their BD (when I told them about their dad moving in with OW etc). She has never responded.
We talked about it a bit. I don’t know what it said, but we chatted about her feelings, her anger, and that at some point she will want to try to deal with them. I told her to take her time, and if she wanted to respond back, so take her time with that as well.
Then I received a long text msg from H, informing me he contacted the kids, informing me they are still blaming him. It seems like they don’t want a relationship with me if I’m not liking with you”. (Not true)
“obviously I don’t know how we possibly all could get together on the holidays given the situation”. I don’t think I can handle the three-way hostility”.
Huh? No one said we were going to get together like a family. And I’ve never been hostile. Ever. Besides, wouldn’t he want to spend the holidays with his GF? So bizarre.
There was lots more. Other accusations and more blame The 2 messages were long. I felt a needed to respond, and I did via e-mail. It was long. I didn’t get involved in defending myself or even close, but did refute his nonsense. I then ended with something more heartfelt. It was things I planned to say in a letter after the divorce (well, an excerpt). I had no expectations he would respond. It said some pretty intense things. I’m not sorry I put myself out there. I felt it needed to be said. That was last night.
He did not respond, as expected.
And I’m o.k. with it.
Then today, I get a very long e-mail about the settlement agreement. Apparently he spoke with an attorney. More negotiations must take place. I’ll be speaking to my attorney on Monday. He also gave me an outrageously high price for the household furniture. No way will I pay it. He can come and take some of this old stuff, and I will just buy new. (He won’t, because his girlfriend furnished their place and there is not room for it). But just because he doesn’t want it doesn’t mean I have to pay top price for it.
I’m o.k. with all of this though. It is what it is. Just something I will have to deal with for a while longer.
I guess his olive branch to our friends, and their advice, was wasn’t energy.
Oh well. My fab life goes on. So does his not so fab life.
