Evening starts out pretty positive , actual friendly chats about issues with kids and work. I video chatted my 6 yr old daughter She tells me mum has said they will spend Xmas eve and morning with her and visit me in the afternoon
We hadn't even discussed it
Wife messages me after and says daughter had told me.
I responded, yeah she did , it's tough, don't know what to think. We should discuss it soon.
Her: sooner the better.
Her: I want your key back to the house.
Me: I don't think that's right. I think I should have a key In case of emergencies
Her: I only backed down and gave you the key back because It he dog was dying. I knew you wouldn't change, I thought you knew what you had done to me. I let my guard down by giving key back. You haven't changed.
Me, that's not fair, I left because you demanded I did and I didn't want to cause any more upset. I'd been advised not to leave the house and I chose to , to make things easier for you.
Her : I bet you didn't tell legal advice you were an abuser. Me: I've been open about everything
Her: I knew I should never have let my guard down I thought you were working on yourself to realise what you have done to me. It's all an act I thought you had changed.
Me: this is why we need agreements in place. It's been a rollercoaster and we are winging it. I still feel I should be first contact in case of emergencies.
Her: I don't trust a word you say.
Me : I'm not going to let myself in, but feel we need an agreement in place.
Her: I'm not talking to you until you give the key back. Me: then maybe we nominate someone who holds emergency key. I'm not sure how to do all this, that's why we need proper advice and agreements going forward.
She is super angry, but I feel I'm right to stand my ground, it's half my house and I shouldn't just bow to her demand to hand the key back.
Am I causing more pressure or doing the right thing?
