The people in the know about my sitch think there is 0% chance we work this out. I think I just need to sit her down for “the talk”. Unless there is a reason not to?
I think you dig through my quotes, looking specifically for one by coach that contains a phase like this:
This is what I need in my marriage. Right now, I do not see that.
While you are digging you clip out other wise pieces. You build up a nice "script" that you want to say to your W.
You post a draft here. We give you feedback. You refine it several times over several weeks. You then practice it. Many times. You then tell her, "We need to talk. Are you free tomorrow at 4pm?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
