Wow. What an amazing amount of excellent advice! I’m floored. Thank you
Is this actually where I want to be? Does this mean I could actually be really good at divorce busting now? Is it a paradoxical “in order to save your marriage, you have to not care about saving your marriage”?
Here is where I am. Being 100% truthful
1 the only thing that I’m worried about getting D’d. Is the process of it. The lawyers and such 2 if she goes or stays. It matters very little to me. I just want her to find happiness, as a fellow human. 3 I’m not angry, bitter, sad, hurt, or any other volatile emotion. 4 I feel a strange sense of calm and happiness, or rather, contentment. 5 when I’m not around her, I do not think of her at all. I do not care who she is with, where she is, or what she is doing. 6 I have no idea what my future holds, and I’m totally ok with it. 7 I’m very comfortable by myself 8 I’m worried about the impact of D on our S, who cannot understand D. (He is very upset when we are not both home) 9 my Life seems completely open to possibilities 10 I believe I’m 100% detached. And I’m unsure of what to do now. I feel invincible to anything she could do to hurt me. Except take away my boy.
But yea. Whatever happens to my marriage doesn’t really matter very much as long as I did what was right for my boy and I conduct myself with dignity
