Thanks Ready, yeah I've been beating myself up for not validating and letting myself fall into that trap. It was just odd, she almost never sends a text like that and it caught me completely off guard. I saw it as an "opening", oh she's talking about our R in a way, let me see ... and I need to stop thinking like that.
People that still talk to her and me tell me she's struggling, not feeling good. Just talked to somebody today and she's sick and doesn't want the kids (or I I guess) to know about it. Says she went to urgent care, one day while at work. All I know is that last week she was under a lot of stress, and one day she slept as soon as she got home.
I'm not crazy about this "NYC trip", I can't even really tell if she's really there. She told the kids about it, but it seems like she hasn't told a lot of our friends. I didn't complain about it, but I wouldn't be surprised she expected me to voice my opinion on it ... just not going to do it. I wished her well and a good time.
I think the D is completely unavoidable, I don't see her changing her mind anytime soon. She's been very clear about that. I still think my best opportunity might be after, but I don't see how that's going to happen. I have a meeting with my L tomorrow, so we'll see how that's panning out.
Today she's sent some cordial text about the kids, etc. so at least things seem to have cooled off for the time.
