LH, after reading many stories here, I at least partially agree with you. I don't even think it was just her wanting to believe it. I believe there was a part of her that did and meant it sincerely. But there was also her waywardness that won out in the end. Triggered by meeting another OM and that other part of her died immediately because she is addicted.
So W is leaving to OM tomorrow. How am I supposed to survive the weekend knowing where she is and what she is doing? And more importantly, how do I not text OM right now and tell him he ends it with my W, or I end his career (I have confirmed he is also military)? I am confident I have enough documentation. I know we always talk about how it isn't about the A and it doesn't matter, but at the end of the day, especially in cases like mine, it seems like it's ALL about the A! It's like saying a heroin addiction isn't really about the heroin. And how do I calmly stand on the side when I could call the dealer and say I'm turning him in if he supplies my W any further??
I get it. Let her go. Stop caring. It just feels like leaving my wife on the side of the road with a needle in her arm. And then the subsequent struggle to not call the cops (in this case, report the A).
