I’m glad the hope/expectations idea resonates with you. I wrote a bigger post somewhere in my past thread, this just the surface. I could probably find a link if you liked; there is a lot to sort through.
As for wedding ring. It’s a personal decision with no clear and best way.
Wearing it could show you’re ok with being plan B. It could also indicate that you are ok with her behaviour. Removing ring lets her taste some feelings of you letting go.
Point is those are attempting to influence her thoughts and feelings. She is irrational and you cannot predict her response, and her response will change anyhow - sometimes hour to hour or quicker.
Decide on the ring based on your feelings and wants.
I know you are looking for advice, I’ve been there. Know that whatever you do won’t have much affect on her.
I would, and did, remove the ring. Pushing back denial and letting go are big steps along the LBS path, this can help.
You can still stand, care, and be kind and compassionate without wearing a ring. And if decide to continue to wear your ring (or put it back on) that is totally fine too.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
