Oz, you seem to bounce back and forth a lot between "I'm working on myself and letting her be!" and "I'm done and ready to divorce her right now!!!!" Before you are ready for D, you will typically go through a months-long period of introspection where you consider where you've been in life, where you are, and where you want to go. You'll consider this in a calm, neutral fashion. You'll weigh how your W plays into this as the person she is now versus who she will be in the future (if she never changes then do you want her as part of your life? What if she changes, will it matter?) If you decide divorce may be the answer, then you will give a lot of thought to what that looks like and start preparing yourself mentally. I don't think you've had that thought process yet, and you need to. So take some time for yourself and do that. As for this:
Originally Posted by ozman
I have an extremely fundamental question. This is divorce busters . Com. What if I’m no longer interested in busting this divorce.
A major component to most of the recons here has been the LBS letting go of the desire to stay married just for the sake of it. When you detach, drop the rope and let go then often that means you are ready for D yourself, and often that is the event that triggers a change in the WAS. The "trick" is you have to really mean it, not just be doing it to try and get her back. So I don't think that a LBS pursuing D is a reason to no longer post here, because that may very well be the trigger for reconciling.
