She´s light years from where she needs to be to get into some recovery. Maybe she has guilt, shame, withdrawal feelings. I was a WW some time ago. We are addicts. It´s not like uplugging a fuse.
There´s a process to recovery. We all need willingness to do that. It takes time and professional help. She´s not there.
Time and patience BB. Protect yourself, protect your kids. Keep DB