J,

You own your own business so I assume you are a good business man.

Put that hat on now.

It's not golly gee do you think we can out a parenting plan together?

It's we need to get a parenting plan in place immediately. Any changes in the plan must be ______________ fill in the blanks.

Do not respond to her bs and definitely stop saying "I know you don't want to see me but"

100% guaranteed you can not placate her right now and these is going to take a really long time to play out.

The quicker you get a backbone the quicker the respect comes back. With respect you have a chance.

Just know she will fight you tooth and nail on this and you need to remain strong.