Morning started with requests again for me to leave work materials in the studio porch again for her to pick up without having any contact.
My replies again were all positive and brief.
I then sent her a copy of the bus timetable for my son, for when he travels to school from mine next week.
Received a mail back stating that she will be taking him to school Monday, picking him up from mine and that she will be picking our daughter up from school next week as it's her first week at new school.
None of this had been discussed and was very directorial.
I messaged saying I would also like to pick her up the first week at new school, especially 1st day.
She responds: you will be dropping her off so it will be more balanced if I pick her up, I want as little contact with you as possible.
Me: I would still like to pick her up weeks she is with me, especially the first day. Maybe first day we can both be there. I understand you want as little contact with me as possible. If we can I'd like to get a parenting plan in place as soon as possible. I'm open and flexible, just feel we need some clarity going forward. We don't have to meet but I can send some examples over and let me know what you think.
Her:I will come to drop her off and pick her up first day.i was trying to support my daughter and feel she would want to see me. Don't use our children as pawns to try and control me. I know what you are doing!
Me: I'm sorry you feel that way, I also wanted to be there for her 1st week, and of course she wants to see you. It's a big change among lots of other changes. We can both be there for them and don't have to talk. Trying to do what is best for them. I wouldn't use them as pawns in all of this.
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This is really hard, I feel like she is dictating everything and every fumble I make in trying to discuss or assert myself comes across as controlling.
