... She has to be in love before sex is an option. I know this to be true because she slept in my bed in college quite a bit when we were just friends and she had an out of town abusive boyfriend. Nothing ever happened despite my best efforts. I tried kissing her twice over the course of a year and was shut down both times because “I have a BF.” ...
Maybe we have different boundaries... but I would consider sleeping in your bed cheating. Especially if she led you on enough for you to try and kiss her. Not to mention that she ended up being with you.
