Give yourself a break-- you have been dealing with an incredible amount of emotional work and don't feel badly about letting H take on a bit more of the work at home. Can you schedule yourself a massage or something, or take a long lunch with a friend to get your mind off things? You deserve it! I also have a job that can be really stressful and trying to deal with both work and all the stress of H/180s etc is just a lot.


Me (46) H (42)
M:14 T:18, D9 & D11
4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs
9/20 - present: R and piecing