The "exchange time" is a bit weird, we still live in the same house. The vague plan is she's expressed some interest in getting an apartment, but as far as I know she doesn't have one picked and she probably can't afford one. That's why this discussion about the holidays is kind of pointless to me at this point, as long as we're in the same house.
Is it likely she plans to whisk the kids away to somewhere else on Thanksgiving--a family member, best friend, co-worker, etc.--or has NYE plans and that's why settling this with you now is important?
I don't know, could be. She made it sound like she didn't know, but I don't believe her. We would usually go to a friend's house for Thanksgiving, but she perceives those friends as being "on my side" (which is not true) so she probably won't do that. I asked her but she didn't want to be open about her plans.
I'm sure for NYE she's already being invited to a party. I found it curious that she was willing to give up Christmas eve/day so easily. We made it a point every year to be both awake to see the kids run to open their gifts, and it's easy for her to *not* do that this year?!?!
