The "exchange time" is a bit weird, we still live in the same house. The vague plan is she's expressed some interest in getting an apartment, but as far as I know she doesn't have one picked and she probably can't afford one. That's why this discussion about the holidays is kind of pointless to me at this point, as long as we're in the same house.
Is it likely she plans to whisk the kids away to somewhere else on Thanksgiving--a family member, best friend, co-worker, etc.--or has NYE plans and that's why settling this with you now is important?
I like that Ready2Change's approach limits the discussion to 2019-20. This retains flexibility in mediation.
