I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

[JC08]

Yes her values and morals have changed for the worse. I meant to say I hope they are not permanent.

It just seemed like she progressed with her EA so much quickly than I did. And for almost a year all we talked about was how glad she was that we figured our lives out, not only for us, but for our children. Then those thoughts and ideas changed in almost no time at all.

I don't know if I'm too tolerant or not and I no there is no guarantee that she follows the same process I did. I know for a big chunk of my affair I was certain that I wanted a divorce, that there was nothing left, that I felt like I poured and gave every thing into the marriage before my affair started. I guess I'm just saying I "justified" that our marriage was dead. But as time went on, things became clearer and I started remembering more than just the bad.

So no guarantee, just hope she goes through the same process. She told me just a few nights ago that she still considered me a great husband and the only time frame I wasn't was during my affair, so I just hope in time my affair doesn't erase all the good.