Weathering the Storm

[DonH]

Dang I'm confused - even after reading everything. That sort of tells me then that there is something else going on here. I applaud you for asking, I think you got a lot of reaction and you took it all very well. Bravo on all of that! Others already pointed out the contradictions and you sort of explained some of them but I guess I'm still confused. As others said, you say she doesn't initiate but then also say she is very open and tells you she can't wait to get home - implying get home to have sex with you. Well, you can't have that both ways - other than to say sometimes she's horny and sometimes not so much - but that's totally normal human actions for most people.

It doesn't sound like she lead you on - or is that it? I mean it almost starts to come down to you are mad at God that she had her period when you wanted to have sex with her! LOL. I mean, it's not her fault. You kissed her and such and then were turned on and couldn't have sex - by YOUR OWN CHOICE. I'm with you BTW but it is still a choice as JuJu points out other guys make a different choice. So what are you upset about or who?

I think the bottom line here is you two need to communicate better. That's often the cause of misunderstandings of people at all R levels - it happens with friends, with family, with FWB with spouses, with co-workers. Just talk with her about it - that sounds like what you need to do. Just what would have made this situation better for you C-Nut? What is it she didn't do that you wish she would have? Or what should she have done differently? And if it's just you wish it wasn't that time of the month, well, man, I don't know how to solve that.

But perhaps it more comes down to this is more then FWB for you and possibly for her - just as others have suggested might be the case. If she's still married, I'm not sure that's a good idea - wait I actually am sure, it's not a good idea - not yet anyhow. But either way, I think you need to try to figure out what it is you really want. And I get it, you think you know what you want until you're in a situation and then you find it's not what you thought you wanted. Either way just talk with her about it - no matter what "it" is. If something is bother you, tell her. You might also want to talk with her about feeling bad about dating someone else and then having to "dump" her. Again, these are just the common landmines of FWB. It really does take the right two people with the right two mindsets.