I wouldn't hold out any hope for a settlement agreement (I'm on 3 years waiting for mine).
Why can't the issue be forced by the courts? Can't/won't he agree to mediation to move it along? That would be a nightmare for me. So far, it's moving along for me.
Originally Posted by OwnIt
If you want a divorce and are prepared to do all the work for it (and probably drag a reluctant body along), then go for it. Your kids are older so you don't have to deal with the custody side of it where things can get ugly. If not and if you are fine with things the way they are now, sit tight.
I have done all the work. He just responds to questions. I'm not fine with the way things are, because I can't tolerate being married to someone living with another woman. Whether he is miserable and just doesn't know a way out, or not, the fact is he's still there. But, part of me wants to see it played out. But, I can do that whether divorced or not.
Originally Posted by OwnIt
Until you are completely sure what you want, probably best to wait (unless the finances dictate moving now).
I'm not completely sure, that is now my problem. I'm comfortable with my decision to push forward with the D, but not completely sure I'm doing the right thing. H messaged me today to inform me he met with them, and it was helpful to hear their story. My friend said he messaged her again last night first thanking them, but expressing uncertainty, anxiety etc. She just keeps saying the same thing. He needs counseling.
Well, for now, I'm finishing up the paperwork. I haven't filed for D yet, but that will be done when the Marriage Settlement Agreement is finished.
