Weathering the Storm

[AndrewP]

Hey C'Nut - long time. I have a bit different perspective on this but I am a few years older and also have had very different life experiences having married relatively young and then stayed married to the same woman for pretty much my entire adult life thus far. A woman who didn't like sex especially with her pain and mobility issues. So while sex is - as I am learning rather late in life - can be a whole lot of fun - it's not been a requirement for me. So my opinions might not match your own wants and needs.

I am not sure if I feel like there should have been benefits because of nice guy tendencies, such as I was nice to take you on this trip and you owe me, or if my feelings are valid and she was being a little selfish.

It's honest of you to think this way. Most guys including myself would have thought that a nice weekend away with someone I'd been intimate with before would be disappointed to not get some action.

I'm now questioning if I want to keep seeing her. Am I being a jerk for feeling this way?

Yep. Accept that.

What is it you are actually looking for from this lady? Sex on demand or someone who you like spending time with both horizontally and vertically who on this particular event wasn't available for the horizontal mambo. Keep in mind as well that based on what you wrote / I read - you were the one who backed away from that. Dumping someone who you have been enjoying spending time with just because on this one single trip is - in my personal opinion - kind of a jerk sort of move. If it becomes a consistent pattern and you are in it more for the benefits than the person, then yes, re-evaluating things makes more sense.

Just my 2 cents.