[Wanted1]

Well, it’s been over a year since the BD. I haven’t been on my thread since shortly after my D was final as you can see but I’ve been coming back on here to read other peoples sitches. It’s somewhat therapeutic for me for some reason and I like to pay it forward by helping out here and there when I can.

Things have been going well for the most part. I never in my wildest dreams thought at this time last year I would be where I am today. I am happy with where my life is and truly feel I’m in a better place being D. Honest to god. No more stress, shame and embarrassment that comes with being married to a serial cheater. No more walking on eggshells in a R and all that “fun” stuff.

With that said, the one part that really still irritates me is ExW is still with AP3. Seems to be going strong still after over a year. I will never accept him. He was a crucial part in destroying my kids’ family and I know if it wasn’t him it would be someone else, but it was him and thus I have no time for immoral people.

This past Sunday, exW FaceTimed D6’s iPad while they were with me at the house. I’ve never prevented FT although I’ve been a little concerned with the frequency of said calls from exW. We are on a 2-2-5-5 arrangement and she will call numerous times during the 5 day stretch I have them. I, on the other hand, respect her time with them and usually just FT once during her 5 day stretch. This call on Sunday, however, took an interesting turn. While they were talking, AP3 all of a sudden appeared on the screen. I was right next to them at the kitchen counter and when I saw him appear I ended the call. The kids didn’t seem to mind too much but exW proceeded to try to call back numerous times which I just ignored. She then text me telling me I need to allow their mother to talk to them. I told her I have no problem with her talking to them but I refuse to accommodate ‘someone else,’ given the history, to interact with my kids when it’s my time with them. That is my right and my decision. It’s a boundary that I will enforce.

Was it wrong? Maybe. But I don’t really care. It was inappropriate in my opinion that she allowed that to happen and him to think it was OK. I would never dream to allow my SO to FaceTime the kids when they are with their mother and my relationship with her wasn’t a contributing factor to the D.

I wish, so bad, this POS would just go away. Disappear. If it was ANYONE else I would be absolutely fine with it.

Question for the vets here.....is this R between them seriously viable? I was hoping it would fizzle out by now. It hasn’t and I’m beginning to wonder if this jackoff is going to be a part of my life and my kids’ lives for the long haul.