We have had some general conversations about the future etc. but nothing over the top and heavy. She seems perfectly happy calling me her boyfriend and we have both told each other that we do see a future. Both of us are not in a rush though. I don't think we are leading each other on but I do think both of us are scared. She wants a pre-nup, that does not come cheap, and she is knee deep in the middle of getting her practice off the ground so she has plenty of things going on in her life at the moment that do not make getting married ASAP a priority. We spend every weekend together (I go over to her place one evening during the week) and honestly I believe she just enjoys going out to eat, relaxing, having fun, hanging out and not having a bunch of heavy conversations. Her practice also has her completely stressed out and consumes a lot of her time. I would think if she was ready to get married tomorrow she would be bringing up the subject way more than she does. She makes comments about in 30 years we are going to go to this country or do this, etc. I will reciprocate as well as I made some comment a couple weeks ago about when we are married taking her son some place.
I could be completely off base but I just think she loves the fact that I am not trying to actively pressure her and lock her down. We have fun on the weekends, enjoy each others company, and just have fun with it.
She also isn't very direct some times either, I do pick up on her hints. Friday night we had our first sleepover as a family at her house. The girls and I had to leave early Saturday morning because my oldest had a soccer game. Later Saturday morning she sends me a text and said how her son wants to have another sleepover tonight, LOL. I knew that was her way of saying I want to do it again without coming right out and being direct. So I said sure, come on over tonight, you guys can stay at my place and I will make dinner. So we had two sleepovers, 1 at her place and another at mine. I did tell her Saturday night after the kids went to bed that I didn't want to push it, she admitted that she wanted to see my again and was being selfish.
Anyways I realize at some point in time things are going to get real or more real than they are now and some decisions/conversations will have to take place. We both know that we wouldn't have lasted this long if we didn't see a future together. How or where or when it goes from here remains to be seen.