Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 5

[DaB35]

Hi DS

I'm doing OK thanks.

Well if I do it, the £300 will come out the joint account anyway so effectively £150 each.

My worry is whether I do it to protect myself (and W to a degree). Neither of us want to be selfish - well I don't, I know that for sure at least! - and just take the lead on sorting this finance order out.

However, in the M/R I would have always taken the lead on finances of any sort, as W was always happy to not swot up on that kind of thing.

OR - by doing this entirely by myself - unless the L asks for info from W (which will be required) - I'm furthering the D along. But I don't trust W to do this correctly, that she'll forget to give out some piece of info which might affect both of us badly. I could be wrong but my gut is telling me otherwise.

If I push back to her completely - Another Stander suggested as an option, "I do not want a D, if you wish to pursue it I will not stand in your way, but don't ask me to do the work for you" - I've never been this forceful with W before so I'm not sure how she'd react, especially after she's breezily said, "If you can sort all that, that would be brill."
Therefore she is assuming I'll just do it.

I know if I take the lead on the court order then I will be confident it'll be done right, but then am I opening myself up to an argument? Is that worth it when we don't live together and haven't seen each other for over a month?


Gym is going well you'd be pleased to hear. Looking at some slim fit shirts in the pre-Xmas sales so I can look good. I'm putting cologne when I go to work still and looking after myself, eating well etc.