Speak to your L about formalising all this through a Consent Order asap. XH doesn't need a lawyer for a consent order to be filed and sealed. Speak to your L about the pros and cons of refinancing before you file a Consent Order. I assume you mean by this refinance the mortgage and payout XH. I would be very, very wary of carrying out any of the significant terms of your written agreement without a consent order being made first. Speak to yor L about nailing in the sole lives with for your S1.5 (and what about parental responsibility??). SPeak to your lawyer about checking ownership of home and severing the joint tenancy in the meantime if warranted. Check your Will and change your Will if warranted, and change beneficaries on your Super death benefit (indeed any other form of insurance) if warranted.
Hey DS, cheers for the advice. At this stage I'm just looking for refi pre-approval so I can file the consent order with confidence that I can pay him out. The custody arrangement has been documented with Centrelink so I can get benefits, and with CSA for child support, so it is on record there at least. I'm just being cautious and not rushing through anything. At this stage, it looks like I won't be approved for refi until there's six months worth of child support payments anyway. I will absolutely file before actioning anything - I'll have to pay stamp duty on the title transfer if I don't.
Originally Posted by DS9
I've often mused on just how much personal happiness at any cost has pervaded our culture. As humans though, we have evolved into beings who need community and companionship. We wouldn't have survived without it. The current ethos around personal happiness will, if it grows more momentum, take humanity into unchartred waters.
I totally agree. I'm of the opinion that my H is now cursed (for lack of a better word) to never achieve true happiness. There's no such thing as happiness as any cost. If your happiness comes at the expense of others, guilt will always be lurking, and prevent you from self-actualisation. In my opinion anyway.
