True, and I want to do that, but she's not sharing how she feels now.
Trying to find out why she's crying and how she feels at this moment seems almost impossible, specially if I don't ask her directly about it.
Hi Augosto, I believe she did begin to share her feelings with you tonight:
Originally Posted by Augosto
W: Beyond disrespectful of you to have me knock as your door and you don't answer.
It’s not a FACT that you disrespected her by not opening the front door, it’s how she FELT about the situation. That’s why I encouraged, “Oh no! You felt ignored and like I didn’t respect you when I didn’t open the door?” When we listen, understand, and validate their feelings (there may have been more, e.g., perhaps in the past she had her own key) connection increases. Beyond that, others are then often more receptive to listening to our perspectives, and in my limited experience, may even apologize for jumping to faulty conclusions. Just food for thought next time! It’s s tough journey and tomorrow is a new day. Good luck.
