22 Years Gone Part 2

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D13 had the therapy session with her mom and came out feeling "powerful." She said she called her mom on some of the stuff she has been doing to her in the past couple years. D13 said her mom would get defensive and then D13 would call her on it. Then her mom would say "I am such a screw up" but would not admit to what she did to screw things up. D13 would just tell her "yes you are a screw up and a liar." Her mom would just cry and when she got no sympathy from D13 or the therapist she would stop crying. D13 said it mostly just felt fake with bits of truth sprinkled in. During the meeting D13 said at this time I don't feel like you are my "mother" and although I am thinking about a relationship it will depend on your actions. All in all D13 was able to clearly articulate that she is leaving a toe in the relationship but her mom's words mean nothing to her and her actions overtime will be the only thing D13 looks at. I was proud of my daughter. The thing that shocked me was when her mom left the meeting she didn't appear shocked or sad at all? If I had left a meeting where my daughter told me she didn't think I was her father anymore I would be so devastated I wouldn't be safe to drive. XW just came out of the session like she just finished work and had to go get groceries at the store before heading home.

XW avoided all contact with me completely. Didn't hurt like I thought it would but still surprises me that someone after 22 years can just emotionally disconnect that easy. In her mind I no longer exist.