"Hi, Yes this is all fine, could you go ahead and organise all that, that would be brill.
Thanks
W"
OK well you probably recall that I said before to tell her "I do not want a D, if you wish to pursue it I will not stand in your way, but don't ask me to do the work for you." That said.....
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One hand: I don't trust her to do it right. She skim reads and will probably make a mistake in a panic and be overwhelmed (which seems to be her fave word lately). It protects me as well as her.
.... if you're just talking about the financial side of things and you don't trust her to handle it properly then go ahead and do it yourself. But...
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Other hand: If I do it all - by that I mean contact a solicitor, keep her updated on the process, liaise with the L where necessary (and get W to do the same when needed) and get it done/copies sent out etc. - then I'm actively progressing the D aren't I? What message does that send?
... I would not perform the actual D steps for her. Do what you need to protect yourself financially if you think she'll screw it up. But leave the D proceedings to her.
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I would push it back but then I really cannot be bothered to get an irate phonecall from her and say that I haven't done anything and she's had to do all the work etc.
"I do not want a D, if you wish to pursue it I will not stand in your way, but don't ask me to do the work for you." Period, end of convo.
