Oz, congrats on the opportunity! Keep in mind your W is not a part of your support group. Don't solicit her advise, just make your decision based on what is best for you and inform her afterwards. If she rants and raves then tell her "this wasn't your decision to make and I am not looking to you for support, nor am I looking to you for criticism. I am simply keeping you informed of what is going on." Then leave the room.
Or, practice listening and validating. No need to change your mind, just validate her feelings (remember that is neither agreeing or disagreeing with her opinion, but merely demonstrating that you understand her feeling), then end the conversation ("I'm busy, I have to go plan how I'm going to attach my first week!"), and leave the room.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
