HaWho, pretty rotten of him to engage in that sort of thing, but pretty typical in divorce I think (whether or not in MLC-land). What a blessing that OD is so messed up that he can't pull off that sort of thing.
I do from time to time remind myself that the behaviors I see in the kids are not all OD-related and some are just that trying teenage time. Case in point, my D was being difficult about 8 months ago and got mad at me for a parental decision I made and stopped speaking to me. I DBed her and gave her the time and space to think things through. A few weeks later I got a tearful call from her with an apology for not communicating and we have been closer than ever since.
What a great lesson too for these kids to learn. That we can be angry with someone who sets appropriate boundaries and then come to our own conclusion about how we behaved and make amends. In general everyone needs a swift kick in the butt (metaphorically) every once in a while to straighten them out.
