Jdv, there is no explanations. I wish there were. My W would cycle between knowing she was done and wanted a D to potentially inviting couples from church over for dinner? It was a whirlwind of 180 changes in direction overnight.
The only thing I can tell you is that right now she is a crazy person. Her reality is what it is in any given moment. One moment she can't forgive you for 15 years of "emotional abuse" (FYI in must cases this is a grossly over exaggeration used to justify other behaviors), the next she is leaning on you emotionally for work crap. If someone emotionally abused you why would you emotionally rely on them?
The WAS, and especially WS, mind is a dangerous place to be. My W looked back on that period of her life and admitted that she had no idea what she was going to feel from minute to minute.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
