From your last couple post you are making a lot of mistakes with relationship talks, cake eating and allowing disrespect.
I feel like your cherry picking information here and there trying to fit into your narrative. You most likely have a wayward on your hands so you should not allow her to play happy family. You should never allow her throw cheap shots at you especially in front of the children. Also, never validate cheap shots and disrespectful behavior.
If you are looking to turn things around and attract her back she most respect you first. Right now she clearly doesn't.
