A year on and standing

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Hi LH19, and overrnbw,

Actually the trip was not arranged by me but by her family members. They hope that I would be joining and I went along as it was planned earlier and I was worried about the kids. Other than that, I just keep options open on events if she wish to come along / not as I read somewhere around here that it's fine to extend invitation but just don't let her change your plans? Other than that, same we only eat together as a family and it's also the if you like to join us, then join. If not, its fine we will not change our plans for you.

After it's over, I do think back and thought to myself, indeed the previous talk was relational. I should have drop it than to even be bothered by it. Focus on validating. However, she does try to take a cheap shot at me once in a while which really irks me as her remarks were so damn ridiculously outright to spite you. Most of the time, I just ignore it than even validating or replying her. But if it's too much, I would make my stand strongly.

Sometimes, I do get the funny feeling that she is doing the detachment thing from us and she is doing it quite well. Perhaps she's already genuinely on path the other direction thus able to pull it off so naturally. I should learn from it.