Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

Update on D re finance/court order:

Email from W:

"Hi, Yes this is all fine, could you go ahead and organise all that, that would be brill.

Thanks

W"


So, to recap - we have just done an informal list of who gets what in the house and what happens to each of our accounts/money. Basically, all personal accounts are not shared and the one joint account is shared after all costs have come out of it.

One hand: I don't trust her to do it right. She skim reads and will probably make a mistake in a panic and be overwhelmed (which seems to be her fave word lately). It protects me as well as her.

Other hand: If I do it all - by that I mean contact a solicitor, keep her updated on the process, liaise with the L where necessary (and get W to do the same when needed) and get it done/copies sent out etc. - then I'm actively progressing the D aren't I? What message does that send?

I would push it back but then I really cannot be bothered to get an irate phonecall from her and say that I haven't done anything and she's had to do all the work etc.

What should I do?