Yeah, it sounds like the odds were stacked against you with all these 3rd parties. The divorced ones are the worst. Your XW would have told them everything, and they would have told her what to do, chapter and verse. It is my observation and experience that sometimes females tend to do what their friends tell them to do, and it snowballs.
Not sure what it was like for you, but very frequently my XW would tell me all about the woes of all of her friends, especially their relationship problems. Sometimes I would be asked for my advice on what these friends should do. Pretty much all her friends had very bad XH's and troubled relationships with new partners. XW would report back to me and usually my advice was taken with thanks. Oh, how that backfired in the end!
I'm almost certain my XW had her best friend in her ear. A week or 2 before BD they met up for lunch, and night after BD they had a planned evening out with another friend. This best friend wanted me when I first met my XW 15 years before. I was the go to guy for bouncing ideas off when this best friend had ongoing R problems and doubts. XW even had the gall shortly after BD to ask me again about what her best friend should do with an issue that popped up. I've learnt a valuable lesson, that's for sure.
Prove all these people wrong Dan.
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
