J,

You texted her about going to the bonfire. That’s pressure.

Here is how the text exchange should have went:

J: what time can I pick up kids?
W: 10:00
J: great thanks.

That’s it. I get the feeling by your post that you think you can control her.

You have to give her time and space to miss you.

You can absolutely turn this around just probably not on the timeline you are expecting.