I think you need to read up on detachment because there seems to be some confusion. True detachment is achieved when you are no longer trying to control the situation and you clearly still are trying. IMO it takes at minimum a year to detach.
As for the Lighthouse, the ship may sail away for years before it comes back to port.
I sense there is definitely something else going on with your W. What you did was wrong but I do not believe it’s a dealbreaker.
