Only thing I’m stressing about a little is money. She took my credit card that is on her account. I still have ways to use it via Apple Pay and such, but I do not know about it. I am hesitant to make any purchases on my own cards as I don’t even know if she will continue paying them. Majority of our cards are in my name and we use them for all purchases, plus the one in her name that she has now taken back the physical card.
The way I see it is if she took your card to her account, then don't try to access that account to pay for a night of GAL. If it was used like a joint bank account, then apparently, she doesn't care if you have food or other necessities of life, since she took your card. If I had to guess about all those other accounts that are in your name, I'd guess she has no immediate intentions of paying them off. Plus, since she didn't give you her cards, there's a real good chance she could max out your accounts, for things like........an expensive plane ticket.
I'm going to say this again. Do what you need to do to protect yourself. This should be your number one priority. The minute she didn't give you her cards to your account, your alarms should have sounded. We tell people all the time to take measures in protecting CC charges, financial savings account, retirement, properties, etc., etc. She's way ahead of you, 44. Come Monday morning, you better get on it. Find out what you have.......what she's used.......where you stand with all your stuff.
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The last thing is her expensive plane ticket. Do I say anything about this?
Whatcha gonna say? Listen 44, she looks at it as her money to spend anyway she wants. It makes no difference the terms the two of you might have had previously. She's in la-la land and will do anything to be with the OM.
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Is she seriously going to cash out her retirement so she can take this trip (she mentioned potentially needing to do it to pay for everything)?
She is likely to do anything. If she's already mentioning her retirement, then don't be surprised. I know of a local WW who cashed out her retirement, gave up her professional career, and left her H and children to move to the other side of the country to live with a man she had never met face to face. So, do I think your WW would have any problem cashing out her retirement? No, I don't. It doesn't mean she will, but I think you are giving her too much credit to think logically......and/or do the honorably thing.
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At this point, I could just not speak to her for another week and not even know whether or not she goes.
Huh?
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But I do know she paid extra for insurance in case she wanted to cancel and get a refund.
Which means??????
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
