Hitting my Stride Part 1

[DonH]

Awesome. Sounds like you are headed on over to marriage land again!

Ha! Sure, he say's:

I am still in no hurry, it doesn't scare me when she makes those comments but I am still in no rush. It is very comfortable, a comfortable pace and I don't find my emotions controlling me, I feel very centered and in control.

So let's see if we can't scare him a bit and knock him off of that center! LOL. I am totally, totally just kidding. In all honesty you do sound like you are doing great. I compare that to the Joseph that was here reporting on herpes girl and some of the other crazies that you dated, knew were crazy, but somehow still wanted. I'm sure now you see the HUGE contrast between them and the doctor - but I think many of us see a contrast in you as well - in a good way.

So what happens if she starts pushing you more? It's still somewhat early - clearly - her not even meeting key family members of yours yet. But what if this were November 2020 and she's clearly expecting a ring for Christmas? Are you ready to go there again? Good for you if you are. I just wonder if you'll still be saying it doesn't scare you and you are centered and in control? I kinda hope you do - especially if that's what you want. It's just that us guys, many anyhow, would be totally fine just continuing along exactly like you are now and for many more years. For some reason, many girls are missing that gene and have to have a ring on it to feel whole.

You've likely got time yet. Something tells me she just won't wait forever if marriage is what her plan is.