JDevast, I get you're on an emotional roller coaster. These last few days you posted everything from who she is now is who you fell in love with, to you're angry and resentful about her behavior.
Originally Posted by "JDevast"
she has completely closed to me saying that she no longer feels safe around someone so manipulative and demanded I leave the family home.
Floating the idea of moving, in an attempt to get a reaction, would be manipulative (influencing or attempting to influence the behavior or emotions of others for one's own purposes).
When I walked away from my ex-wife, I'd have been happy if she moved. That would've removed most of the consequences--I'd see my kids anytime I wanted, I'd get my income plus hers, and I could free up my schedule to meet new people on any schedule I wanted. Another single dad I know got to live this dream. I definitely had fantasies about my ex moving far, far away when I was the walkaway spouse.
Originally Posted by "JDevast"
Fact remains she would never have made all these new friends or tasted this new freedom if I hadn't been at home watching the kids.
My partner leveraged friends and family for childcare. If you wouldn't take responsibility for the kids 50%, in most places you'd end up paying enough child support to cover a nanny/sitter.
There are many consequences to walking away from a marriage. "No free time" is rarely one of them.
Anyway, using the a.m. while my partner sleeps to wish you well. GAL this weekend. Peace!
