But in response yes I'm looking for a reaction by floating the idea
I love my kids , want to wake up to them every morning
I wouldn't do it, then. Make choices for you and the kids. Drop the pressure.
Originally Posted by "Jdevast"
but also need her to know I'm not back up child care when she wants to pursue her new single life.
If you want to stop being backup child care, say "No" when she asks you to be backup childcare. You're both 50/50 responsible for the kids, so let her know the half of the time you are available so she can make her GAL plans. Say no if she breaks the schedule. If you move away, at least in the US, you'd be ordered to pay child support--giving her enough money so she can GAL about as often as you can GAL.
Personally, I accept almost any extra time with my kids my ex offers, because I love seeing them. The exception would be if the ask is too last minute and I have plans.
