Hey guys! A lot to talk about. First. I discovered the library today! I don’t know why I didn’t come here sooner. This place seems like a haven from everything bad going on
Second. I got a job offer!! I’m thinking about hanging up my wrenches. And this job would triple my current income! It’s at a higher end car dealership. The hiring person showed me numbers and I’m very tempted. It’s a place where a sales slot does not open very often so it’s kind of a rare opportunity. W has had some upheaval at her job over the last couple days where she thought she might not have a job. She has stressed out so bad that she has developed a huge rash!! It all worked out however and I was there to listen to her stress out about it.
Third. I tried to approach W to visit with her about said job offer. Each time she blew me off and started talking about her stress about her job. She has begun disrespecting me again. She is rude unless she needs someone to talk to. She became this way once I started working two jobs. I’m never home and that seems to have made things worse. She publicly humiliated me last night at a large family dinner last night. Someone said something about buying a car to wich she said loudly “my credit score is like a 300! And that’s because of you” (gesturing to me). In front of her entire family. It was very humiliating.
The only reason I have tried to involve her in the conversation about my job offer is because it affects our entire family. And a move this big (that also carries some risk) I feel should be decided by both of us. After repeated failed attempts to converse with her about it I told her this morning “I’m thinking about putting in my 2 weeks”. That got her attention!! Lol. Then she became very angry. She told me that she thinks that this opportunity is “f$&@&$g stupid” and the said “you do whatever the f@$k you want to do”.
I’m done. I can tell you guys that you were right. I wasn’t as fine as I thought. Because those things hurt. But I’m tired of her. I’m tired of trying. I’m tired of doing nothing. I’ve tried to help her with her stress but to no avail. I’ve tried doing nothing which makes her spiral out of control. She is a wreck!! When I withdraw. She goes downhill.
The is an article on this website that that says that sometimes all that can be salvaged is the friendship. I think that is where I may be. I don’t want to end up hating her. I’m about to call it
