Post Birthday BD

[rooskers]

the marriage is currently over and will require much effort on her part first (and then mine) to ever build anything from the ashes.

You are right the old marriage is over whether the divorce goes through or not. She broke all the vows and promises she made and you were not responsible for that. The only thing you can do now is to become the best version of yourself and be the best possible dad for your child. Leave her to find herself. I am so sorry you are going through this. Continue to post here and listen to the advice given by the veterans.