22 Years Gone Part 2

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22 Years Gone Part 1

Prologue:

My XW and I had been together since we met in college back in 1997. We got married in 2002 and had our daughter in 2006. From 1997-2002 I was the primary bread-winner and put XW through college and after she then worked and put me through college. We then decided to have a child and since she could make a lot more money than my profession I became the stay at home dad. In 2008 she had an affair on me with the husband of a couple we were really good friends with. She was the one who pursued him and he broke it off to save his marriage with his wife. I was in hell for 4 months until she agreed to work on the relationship, which I thought had been going great for the next 10 years. A year ago D13 and myself had noticed she was pulling away but thought it was because of how busy we all were. May 23 XW decided to BD me right before my birthday and a big Hawaii trip we had been planning for 4 years. She said it was not because of a guy but D13 told me she had been seeing her hold hands and spending a lot of time with her best friends dad. She denied it but other people confirmed they have been together a lot and she even invited OM daughter to go to Hawaii since I couldn't go anymore. XW moved out one day after BD and has never been back or talked about the R or seen me other than at D13 drop off since then. XW had an appointment with a divorce attorney within a week of leaving, so to protect myself financially and to protect my time with D13 I contacted my own lawyer. XW called me before Hawaii and told me exactly what she wanted in the divorce (D13 every other weekend, split everything financially in half, and I get the house.) I had my lawyer draw up the paperwork and when XW got back from the Hawaii trip she was given the papers and she signed them and within a couple weeks it was over. XW then became very hostile towards me and became extremely distant from D13. Visitation visits have been extremely difficult between D13 and XW. D13 is in therapy and I have been adapting to my new life as a single dad raising a teenage daughter.