Divorce because I betrayed her trust - THREAD 4

[DaB35]

One thing I've thought about - when D is finalised and it is all done and dusted, what do you say to your S?

I presume when it happens she will contact me saying "The D is finalised now, so we are not married anymore." I will also get confirmation from the courts anyway.

Part of me wants to say in response, "Well, you got what you wanted." I know that is very petty and bitter and doesn't achieve anything. But it is true. She wanted it, I accepted it despite fighting for M, she's going to get it, and with that all the rubbish that goes with it (loss of house, living arrangements in disarray etc.).

I'm not sure what will happen between us when it does go through. She has said several times that she wants to remain friends - she has said (all this was said after she told me she will file for D):
"I am devastated about how it's all had to end"
"If things could have been different I really wish they could be"
"It is a lot to lose. It is very sad."
"I still care about your happiness."

However, she hasn't spoken to me much except about D logistics, and I haven't seen her since mid-September. OK, sounds like we are both GALing by ourselves essentially. But is this still a case of "believe nothing of what they say/do?"

Is she still being emotional and therefore not being logical? Does she still have enablers that are pushing her in a certain direction?

I'm mindful that Steve85 said D is just a formality, a bit of paper. I'm feeling a bit confused as to why she'd say all these things above, then not speak to me, then be cordial when contacting me, ending her emails with "Hope all is well with you." She doesn't *have* to write that - she doesn't need to ask about how I'm doing. Yet she does.

Hang on there D35, you're over-thinking again...!
[gets own 2x4]