Also need some advice regarding our 10S if any one can help...
I think he is starting to feel the "less than loving" energy within our home. All his life he was used to seeing mommy and daddy hugging and kissing each other. Hearing us flirt, and being in love. We would put him in the middle of us and call him our sandwich. Love was abundant and everlasting to him.
For the past 4 months he hasn't been experiencing that love between his mommy and daddy and I think he's starting to feel it. He seems more irritable and disrespectful. Just the other day, I picked him up from school and he immediately started to sob and he couldn't tell me why. He loves martial arts like me, but hasn't been wanting to train lately. One day when I was feeling really depressed, I cried uncontrollably and he seen me which made him cry as well. I felt horrible for that.
Again, my W has been working late nights recently, and also had those few times where she went out and came home very late from partying (4-5:30am). One time when i asked him what's wrong, he said he missed his mama.
The other night before my W went to work, my son said,"Do you like working, or me better mama?" for which she did not reply. i felt like I had to correct him and I said,"Hey man that's mamas work, and it's important." It bothered me that she didn't say anything and also bothered me that I defended her.
So how do i address the situation with him? Do I tell my wife that she needs to talk to him about her work, so he understands better what is going on and why she's working at night? Do I tell my wife that our son has been having issues with her not being at home as much as before? I'm afraid she's will think that i'm the one that planted that seed in his head, when it was just him observing the truth.
