First no you are not supposed to get angry . Try a boundary - if it’s screaming - just Calmly say I will not be screamed at . If you continue to scream I am going to walk away . If she keeps screaming - walk away .
This post really tugged at my heart . The kids heard all this . End conversation that escalated like this one quickly .
She was screaming at the kids, then screaming complaining about them to me, but not screaming AT me (if that makes sense).
She started hyperventilating at one point, I asked her if she needed water or to breathe into a bag. She didn't respond. I should have probably not even said anything.
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The kids are not painting her as the bad guy . Right now she feels like the bad guy .
She feels that anybody that complains about what she's doing is trying to manipulate her. She feels that the kids saying they're sad, or me when I was showing my sadness (I'm hiding it more now) is manipulation. I really don't appreciate her telling the kids they're being manipulative. She also texted our 15 year old the other day calling her a manipulative narcissist !
She's getting a lot of fallout from her decision, and she doesn't like it. But she makes it clear that nothing will deter her from what she's doing. Her moral and religious background would tell her what she's doing is wrong, and I often wonder what type of internal conflict she has inside her about that. But I'm not going to ask or discuss it with her. She's going to have to deal / resolve that on her own.
